One positive that the long wait to adopt has afforded us is plenty of time to plan and prepare for when Grace is home. One big thing we have been planning is for Jen to be able to take the next school year off work to stay home with Grace. With potential attachment issues we thought it would be great if Grace could have mommy home with her as long as possible. Jen's contract actually allows her to take up to 2 years off for child rearing. Although at this point we are only planning 1 year off, we will reassess next year and see where we are. Another positive of the long wait is we have been able to build up a little buffer in our bank account so the year without Jen's paycheck won't be a financial worry.
As a teacher Jen actually has a great job for a working mom. We discussed her being a stay at home mom briefly but she really loves her job and really doesn't want to stop working. It just wouldn't make sense. She has summers off, and a week off in December, February and April, plus all holidays. Her school also has a great and fairly inexpensive daycare on-site that we will be able to use once Grace is potty trained.
That probably leaves a year between when Jen goes back to work and she can use the in-school daycare. At this point we are planning to put Grace in a local daycare for about three days a week and possibly have the Grammys take care of her for a day or so a week. We know how much they are looking forward to spending time with Grace.As for me I am planning to take two weeks off for the trip to China then three additional weeks when we get home. I do get 4 weeks vacation a year so that should leave me some time off this summer. After all, someone has to work to pay for all of those little dresses and shoes that Jen has been buying.