Jen had her first awkward interaction today with a stranger asking personal questions about our family. We usually get a lot of attention when we go anywhere with Grace and most people probably just assume a caucasian couple with and asian baby, she must be adopted. But until today nobody has asked. I guess things get a little more complicated when just one of us is out with Grace as our spouse could be Asian. So today Jen is at the doctor's office (not Grace's regular doctor) and heads up to the receptionist.....it went something like this:
Receptionist: Can I ask you a question?
Jen: (Thinking: this is gonna go downhill fast) Yes
Receptionist: Is she yours?
Jen: Yes, she is mine (hoping the converation will end here)
Receptionist: Oh, is her father Asian?
Jen: No (again hoping this will end the conversation)
Receptionist: Oh, is she (whispers) "adopted" ?
Jen: Yes, But she is ours.
Receptionist: Oh, of course........
The whole whispering the word "adopted" is what really bothers us. Grace being adopted is not something to be ashamed of that needs to be whispered. It is not like we are (or could) hide her adoption from her. Whisper it and maybe she won't know that she is adopted. I also don't get why some people think they have the right to ask personal questions of strangers. It is one thing for someone considering adoption to ask questions about the process, etc. But to ask just a stranger personal questions just because you are nosey is a little over the line.
But I really can't stay angry about anything for too long when I have this to come home to....and "Yes, she is ours".